One more day into this challenge and another message that just screams, duh! to me. If we are to take the best care of ourselves, treat ourselves with respect and hope for the most muchness that we can get in life, than what do we think happens to that plan when we are judgmental toward others?
I'm thinking about survivors of infant loss, these strong people who are forced into a trajectory that no person/family should ever be thrown down. People around them can be super judgmental whether they mean it or not, expecting and telling parents to "move on" or "try again."
This month, October, is the national awareness month for Pregnancy and Infant Loss awareness. If you happen to know a family who has gone through loss before, be gentle on them, they are trying and will grieve on their own time table, not anyone else's.
Savor the muchness... A concept I've taken years to learn yet still have problems savoring my own "muchness" after all these years. After the loss of Samantha, my daughter, I was overcome with grief. In an area that prefers to keep loss on the "hush-hush," I was often made to feel alone in my grief, no one wanted to hear about it and expected my husband and I to move on to better days.
I learned on my own to hold my feelings and finally learned that indeed my feelings of grief were acceptable and completely normal. It was in that moment that I began to put my grief to work so that I could use my experiences to help parents in similar situations. No one should ever go through the loss of a child without support and from my own experiences, I'm continually learning and wanting to help others make the most of whatever situation they may find themselves in.
My favorite color...
Finding your muchness is all about reaching to discover yourself through various methods of discovery and self exploration. A favorite color of mine, garnet, means a great deal to me. As huge college football fans, my husband and I own quite a bit of garnet and black colored football and tailgating gear. To me, this color signifies the beginning of fall, football, weekends of spending time with friends and family bonding over the time spent together.
Just a girl, a wife, angel mother and friend... An infant loss parent, post menopausal 20 something year old and brain surgery survivor...I've been through alot and have a lot to share!
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