Grief evolves, it grows with you, it changes with you as you grow into the person you are becoming.
Grief is love, it simply fills the hole where loved lived before.
Grief brings people together but can also tear people apart.
“Vilomah" a name for parents whose child has passed away….
I am the mother to an angel. At the young age of 21, my husband and I lost our stillborn daughter. Her loss took us through the darkest periods of our life yet we are here, we don’t have all the answers but we have lived through the first few years of grief and am still making it day to day. My hope is that I can provide some little piece of comfort or support to another mom, another dad, another family member who finds themselves going through a difficult situation. We want our daughter to be remembered and we wanted to honor her memory by helping other families.
My little girl has been gone for seven years now. Those seven years have taught me many, many lessons, mainly, lessons in grief. Grief never goes away, it never eases. Grief evolves, it grows with you, it changes with you as you grow into the person you are becoming. Grief is love, it simply fills the hole where loved lived before. Grief brings people together but can also tear people apart. Grief has taught me many, many things. I am afraid the lessons are not over…
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On Ash Wednesday, 7 years ago, my friend Rebecca went to the hospital with us. Hours later, we brought our stillborn daughter into this world. While this day (2/10) isn't the actual date of her birth, today is Ash Wednesday and both days are clear reminders of my dear Samantha. I don't practice lent, I don't give up an item for a season, but this season is a rather humbling and reflective time for me each year. That cold February night changed our entire lives and sparked the desire in my heart to help other families going through similar situations.. Similar Posts: Remembering Her Share Your Story Just the other day I was unpacking my office, we’ve been remodeling, unpacking and moving things for such a very long time now, it seems like forever! I picked up a box labeled “office” and immediately knew that this box would be a tough one to unpack, yet it had to be done, I couldn’t simply leave her things packed away. Begin Speech: Like everyone here, there have been numerous experiences that have made me who I am today. One experience has particularly shaped me as a person. Most of us are relatively young and have not had the chance to start a family of our own yet. I have always dreamed of having children and last year, my dream should have came true. Unfortunately, my hopes for a family came crashing to a halt on a late night in February. I was 21 years old when I gave birth to a beautiful stillborn baby girl. So much has changed since this time last year, I already have a lot to be thankful for. I should have gotten around to writing something like this back in November, at Thanksgiving…yet here we are into the second week of January and I’m finally here writing this down. Not so long ago, I was still recovering from two brains surgeries and had only been back to work a few months, this time last year. Looking back, we’ve moved cross country, transitioned back into “civilian life”, bought our first house and survived massive flooding throughout our state. This year, I’ve got a lot of plans for getting ahead and for making up for lost time. I’m still so thankful for the things I have and for the people that have blessed me by being in my life. My husband, my improving health, my business, and all of my wonderful family got me through last year and I’m excited to see what 2016 will hold! |
Author:Just a girl, a wife, angel mother and friend... An infant loss parent, post menopausal 20 something year old and brain surgery survivor...I've been through alot and have a lot to share! Popular Posts
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